After discovering boyfriend Blake Shelton went through the same thing, she confesses that there was much embarrassment to be had about her own failed marriage.
Prior to meeting Blake Shelton and discovering that he was going through the same thing with his now ex-wife, Miranda Lambert, Gwen Stefani opens up to Glamour Magazine for their ‘Woman of the Year’ issue and explains the cause of so much shame in her divorce.
Having referred to the months following the break down of her marriage as ‘several months of hell’ and ‘torture’, Stefani reveals that she felt and overpowering amount of shame about the divorce from British rocker, Gavin Rossdale.
“I don’t think you’ll talk to one person who didn’t make it in a marriage who’s not gonna feel [embarrassed],” Stefani tells the publication. “The intention of being married is the vow, right? You want to put everything into it to make it a success. And all I had to look at was the huge success of my parents: They just had their fiftieth anniversary.”
But while she carried the shame of her failed marriage, she acknowledges that her situation required an incredible amount of work, and a skillful touch.
“I had to work really hard at marriage, all the time, like everybody, but ours was extra hard, when you add that we’re from different countries, both of us being in music, and celebrity. [Marriage] was the one thing I didn’t want to fail at. People can say whatever they want to about me…and I don’t get too affected. But I didn’t want them to think I was a failure. There’s nothing weird about how I felt.”
Having worked through the painful time after her split, she found acceptance and understanding in fellow ‘Voice’ coach Blake Shelton – since he had just gone through the same situation. Through that bond, they found love in one another.
Watch her interview with CBS Sunday Morning in the video below.